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As many of you know, I quit my job to pursue my writing career in 2012. Since the moment I left, people have just assumed that my kids are staying home with me.
They often ask things like “Aren’t you having a blast staying home with the kids?” Or, they say, “Greg must be relieved that you’re staying home with the kids now.” One older woman even told me that I would never regret leaving work to stay home with my kids. “They grow up so fast,” she said. “You’ll be so glad that you stayed home with them when you’re my age.”
When this first started happening, I would just nod and smile and change the subject. However, I’ve finally gotten to the point where I’ve decided that I am going to tell people the cold, hard truth.
“My kids go to school, then daycare on school breaks.”
Dealing with Haters
Some people (including readers of this website) have made it clear they don’t approve. After all, I should be able to watch my two young children while I work, right? Like, I should totally be able to write professional grade articles and be a responsible parent at the same time.
And I should do it with a smile on my face and a pan of brownies in the oven, too. Because I’m a woman, right? I need to be with my kids 24/7, bring in an income, and look smokin’ hot while I’m doing it.
Why I’m Not a Stay-at-Home Mom
Unfortunately, I wasn’t made to multi-task at fembot level. And, I have found that I can only do a really good job when I do one thing at a time. I can’t work on a serious project while making snacks every 20 minutes, trying to keep my kids from hitting each other, and answering at least 25 questions per hour. So, I send my kids to daycare when they’re not in school. And, although I occasionally miss them during the day, I don’t feel bad about it. Here’s why:
- I can earn more money if they’re at daycare – I could probably get some writing done if my kids stayed home. However, there is no way I could complete anywhere near the number of projects that I work on during full-time hours. Since my kids go to daycare and school, I’m able to take on a lot of paid work (I made over $22,000 last month) and use that money to pay the bills. Working also allows me to save a lot of money for the future. As my kids get older, I know that they’re going to want things – big things – like cars, college degrees, and weddings. I want to be prepared when that day comes.
- I am able to get mundane chores done – Do you know what’s hard to do at my house? Laundry. My five-year-old enjoys unfolding clothes and my seven-year-old thinks it’s fun to throw them in the air. The good news is, I’m now able to do dishes and laundry during the day when it’s much, much easier.
- I’m able to exercise – One of the best things about working from home is that I’m able to exercise on a daily basis. When I worked at my old 9-5 job, it was nearly impossible to get a reasonable amount of exercise in…if any at all. Working from home means that I’m able to drop what I’m doing and go on a brisk walk or jog whenever I need a break.
- I have no desire to be a stay-at-home mom – There, I said it. I actually like working during the day. I like having my own interests and time to pursue those interests. And while I think some women are naturally equipped to be with their children 24/7, I know that I’m not one of them. And, I’m okay with that.
- I love earning money – Life is so unpredictable, and I love knowing that I’m able to make a living online. It gives me security to know that we’d be alright financially, even if something were to happen to Greg. Besides that, there are so many things on my bucket list….and most of them cost a ton of cash. But, I have to start somewhere, right?
Choosing whether to stay home with the kids or to work instead is an entirely personal decision, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” answer. Everyone just has to do what works best for their unique situation. And, while the thought of staying home with my kids sounds rather appealing, I know from experience the reality is quite different. A lot different.
I sure do love my kiddos. I just don’t want to be with them 24/7…and that’s why I’m not a stay-at-home mom.
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Have you ever wanted to be a stay-at-home mom? Why or why not?