Working in a mortuary can be depressing in a lot of ways. We are constantly confronted with our own mortality and the mortality of those in our community. We are always reminded of how fragile life can be, and how – sometimes – it can end so quickly and unexpectedly. As we perform funeral services throughout the years, I often wonder if the people we care for got what they really wanted out of life. Did their dreams come true? Did they accomplish everything that they wanted to? Is this the ending they envisioned…or do they wish that things had turned out differently?
Unfortunately, I will never find out the answers to those questions. As funeral dates come and go, I will never know whether the people we serve got what they wanted out of life. Maybe no one will ever know if they left satisfied, feeling that they had grasped everything that life had to offer.
Although funeral service definitely has its downfalls, I believe that my job has bestowed an amazing gift upon my family – the gift of being aware. My job is a constant reminder that my life is ticking away day by day and hour by hour. Every day is a blessing, and I am always under pressure to make the most of it. I am always thinking to myself, what do I really want out of life? And if I died tomorrow, what would I wish I had done differently?
Fortunately, I am only 32-years old and I likely have many, many years ahead of me. I have so much to look forward to, and I wish I could slow down time with my young children. People always tell me how I will look back on this time when my kids are little and see it as the best time in my life. In a way, I hope that they are wrong. There is so much I want to see and do, and I am hoping that this is just the beginning of many amazing years and decades. I have been thinking a little about what I want to accomplish in my lifetime and decided to make a short list of what I have thought of so far.
My Bucket List
Our tenth anniversary will be on December 17, 2015. That gives us 3 years and just a couple of months to pay off approximately $140,000. I crunched the numbers a few days ago and am now confident that we can accomplish this. Paying off my house seems like a lame thing to put on my bucket list, but here it is. I cannot wait!
Take my parents somewhere they have always wanted to go
My parents have done so many amazing things for me. They have been there for me in the best times of my life, but more importantly in the lowest lows. They have provided constant support and encouragement and have always been my #1 fans. I want to pay for them to go somewhere amazing.
There are so many places I want to go. Alaska, Europe, South America, Australia, Hawaii, China, and so many other places are on my agenda. I love the kind of vacation where I just sit my ass on a beach, but I also want to see the world! I want to go places that most only see on postcards or the internet. I want to travel the globe and have experiences that others only dream of.
Pay for my kids’ college
I want to pay for my kid’s college – in full. We have been saving in the 529 plans since they were babies and have several investments in place that I think will help us reach this goal. I want my kids to graduate with the degree of their choice and no debt. I want them to be able to take a low paying internship, travel, or do what they dream without having the burden of student loan debt.
Adding More to the Bucket List
There are also many other smaller things that I want to do:
See a show on Broadway in New York City
See Les Miserables in London
See the Terra Cotta warriors in China
Party in Paris and Amsterdam
I could go on and on and on. Right now these are only dreams…but with each passing month, I get closer to achieving them. Each month, I get closer to being debt free and living the life that I truly want to live.
What is your bucket list? What are your hopes and dreams for the future? Did this post depress or inspire you? Let us know in the comments below!